“I want to lose XXlbs”
“I want to fit into the pants I wore 3 years ago.”
“I want to be as fit as I was before I had kids.”
“I want the body I had a decade ago.”
“I want to weigh XXXlbs”
And when I ask “Why?” the answer is almost the same every single time: “Because that would make me happier.”
When I hear goals like this I always take note, but I aim to dig deeper and find out what it is they *REALLY* want. Because I can tell you with 100% certainty that being a certain weight or wearing a certain dress/pant size does NOT, in itself, bring happiness.
I’ve witnessed people work to get to their goal weight, only to still be disappointed in the way they look, and still feel like garbage about themselves.
So this is why, in initial conversations about goals, I listen with my “therapist ears” for what a person is truly trying to achieve.
And it’s usually something like this:
😁Self-confidence
😁Opening up the closet to get dressed without feeling ashamed
😁Being able to say YES more often to invitations from family & friends to participate in activities and adventures
😁Feeling fulfilled in one’s roles in life (spouse, parent, child, employee, business owner, etc) without feeling consumed by these same roles
But, it’s not always easy for someone to pinpoint these things as what they *truly* want for themselves. This is, in part, due to the myriad messages we receive from our media and society about what “makes you happy.” We’ve been deeply conditioned to believe that the number on the scale or on the tags of our clothing dictate whether or not we should be happy. It’s a trap that I don’t want you to fall into.
When you create a goal for yourself, dig deeper and try to uncover what it is that you *really* want.
- Coach Michelle
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